It’s hard to explain, but I’ll try to explain it the same way I did to my children at dinner tonight.
We remember and celebrate Mary-Linda’s milestones, because she’s our daughter. We talk about her, because she is ours. She was our gift for a short time on this earth, but she is still ours. She existed. She was hoped for, prayed for, and very loved. We will not forget her. And, now that we have another baby arriving soon, we thank God even more for Mary-Linda’s life and all that experience has taught us.
We celebrate so many of our living children’s milestones. We celebrate their birthdays, their half-birthdays, their hits on the baseball field, recital performances, cotillion dances, piano recitals, their lives here on earth. So, our Mary-Linda has two significant dates- her born-sleeping date and her due date.
We celebrate the first on August 16th- the day I delivered her and the day our family dream of holding her in our arms- came true.
The latter we celebrate on January 21st- her due date. We know, if she had been born around the same gestation as her sister and brothers, she would be one year old now.
So, to celebrate Mary-Linda, we made (and enjoyed!) our favorite family meal- lebanese grape leaves. Recipe here.
And, a gluten free brownie in honor of our little girl.
The butterfly plates remind me of my grandmother, Nannie Brock, who is also in heaven. I imagine that they are joyful to be together.
This isn’t an easy road, but we trust in the Lord.
Let love and faithfulness never leave you
bind them around your neck
write them on the tablet of your heart
Then you will win favor and a good name
in the sight of God and man
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding
In all your ways submit to him
and he will make your paths straight
Happy birthday in heaven, dear baby girl, our Mary-Linda Elizabeth
We love you forever.
Momma, Daddy, Bakri, Maddux, Trinity and Leeland